This post is sensitive, yet it is necessary. This post is not to glorify abortion, but it is to hearten the spirits of women and ladies who had to make this hard and very difficult decision. Most times, they had to make this decision by themselves, alone and in secret. Even if they had someone make the decision for them, it doesn’t make it any easier, or make the guilt more bearable.
Highlighted below are some basic steps to help you get through one of the most difficult decision you might ever take in your life.
- First, it’s important to that you learn to forgive yourself: That’s the first step to help you get through the guilt. You did what you felt you had to do at that point in your life. You did what you thought was right, even if you might regret that decision today, you took what you felt was the right decision.
- Secondly, you have to acknowledge the reason for your decision: There is a reason you had to abort that pregnancy. Whatever that reason is, I really hope that it’s worth it.
- Thirdly, you have to make sure that abortion was not in vain: You have to make it become your driving force for positive achievements. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and decide that your decision not to keep that pregnancy, would become your strongest strength and motivation for your success.
A pregnancy might be planned or unplanned, but it is never a mistake. Probably you got pregnant by the wrong person, or through rape. It’s totally understandable why you won’t want to go through with the pregnancy and have an abortion. Or maybe you had an abortion in other to secure your career or complete your education, or you probably had an abortion for fear of what people might say. You didn’t want the society to judge you. Bottom line, it’s high time you let go and stop beating yourself.
Nobody has the right to judge you. You did what you thought was necessary. But you have to ensure you don’t take the same steps that lead you to make such difficult decisions. If you had an abortion as a result of rape, you need to seek help and counselling from trusted people or organizations. If you had an abortion as a result of unwanted or unplanned pregnancy, you and your partner need to get acquainted with contraceptives. Health reasons are the only justifiable reasons for abortion.
It’s time to stop judging yourself and make the most out of your decision positively.