They say variety is the spice of life and practice makes perfect– and orgasms are no different! Indeed, research suggests that women who mix up their means of orgasms are more likely to experience more sexual bliss.
I think we can all agree that you can’t have too much of these things. If we leave out all the big words that scientists and doctors throw at us about sex and orgasms, we can relax and actually enjoy the sex long enough to get that toe-curling, ooooooh! feeling.
Predictably, that’s where the consensus ends: orgasms, like women, are pleasingly unique. From how they feel; the reactions they prompt; right through to how they’re reached, that exquisite consequence of good loving, skilled rubbing or whatever else turns you on is distinctly and deliciously personal.
That said, experience tells us that broadly speaking, female orgasms fall into four main categories. Or is it nine? Or perhaps twelve? Once again, the jury’s out, but between clitoral, vaginal, and blended we like to think there are already infinite intimate possibilities to explore, solo or à deux…
Oooooh Spot #1: Clitoral Orgasms
What it is
The clitoris is a remarkable thing. The erogenous hot-spot for women, it boasts a sensational 8,000 nerve endings and is the only human organ designed solely for pleasure. Although the majority of the not-so-average clitoris is actually hidden inside the body, that all-important external sweet spot towards the top of the vulva make clitoral orgasms ripe for both kinds of play – solo and fore.
How to get it
Magical as it is, the clitoris isn’t some button promising instant gratification. Rather than a straightforward case of ‘X marks the spot’, you’re much more likely to reach the big ‘O’ if your partner takes sometime on the sensual of areas around this zone before honing in on the clitoris itself. Enjoy it, savor it, and when those caresses finally reach their pleasure peak, count on those 8,000 or so nerve endings for spine-tingling, toe-curling bliss.
Whether you’re alone or with a partner, a handheld vibrator can add the extra ‘oomph’ to get you where you want to be, in the orgasmic sense. If you’re a complete newbie, a petite palm-sized vibe is the perfect starter sex toy to begin exploring the pleasures you enjoy the most, and which intimate item will help you fulfill them.
Oooooh Spot #2: Vaginal Orgasms
What it is
While with clitoral orgasms, all the touching, caressing and stroking of sensitive spots are outside the body, with the vagina all of these happen on the inside.
Specifically what we’re aiming for here, be it with fingers, a penis or a sex toy, is the G-spot. The most mysterious of erogenous zones, is so mystical that most people doubt its existence. But we KNOW that an estimated 30% of women achieve their orgasms through penetration alone!
How to get it
For many women, pressure on the frontal ‘wall’ of the inner vagina feels super good. To increase the chances of a G-spot orgasm during sex, your partner’s penis should be aligned to target just that spot – popping a pillow underneath your bottom during missionary is a good angle or just bend at the waist real low in doggy style
Because of the G-spot position on that frontal vaginal wall, you’ll need a vibrator that is shaped specifically for G-spot massage. You’ll know these vibrators by their unique appearance, as they usually feature a flattened or widened surface at their tips, which focuses vibrations and pressure to where they’re wanted most.
Oooooh Spot# 3: Blended Orgasms
What it is
This is the orgasm that make us a screamer. Imagine: the exquisite intensity of a clitoral orgasm, combined with the body-shaking force of a vaginal one. That, reader, is what’s called a blended climax, bringing the best of both worlds to one sensational high that’s a delight to experience, and even better when it’s shared.
How to get it
There are a lot of moving parts here: two erotically erogenous zones, simultaneously stimulated to bring a whole wave of sensations. Sounds complicated? It’s not – all that’s required is communication and patience. Yes, talk! Don’t be shy to get what you want – men are not.
A blended orgasm is easier if the woman becomes very aroused before she has intercourse. Go full throttle with foreplay—lots of kissing, touching, licking, and massaging all over your bodies—and if you feel your enthusiasm waning during intercourse, go back to the heavy petting.
The key is to find a position that allows either him or, ideally, yourself hands-on access to your clitoris, as well as that all important G-spot angle. A good position for this is the Cowgirl (woman on top).
The best way to experience the blended orgasm for your first few times is with a dual action – sometimes called a ‘rabbit-style’ – vibrator that features both an internal and external massage point. There are a number of them available on the market, but as with every intimate item you plan to use, ensure you get the safest sex toys on offer by buying the best – and by ‘the best’, we of course mean from us.
A Happy Ending
Throughout history, the female orgasm has intrigued, inspired and even intimidated. Do they matter? Of course they do, but let’s not forget: a happy ending is nothing without the mind-blowing sex before. With that in mind, we could all do with mixing things up now and again. After all, climax or no, we guarantee you’ll have a lot of fun trying!
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